Raising children with a fairy tale

“A fairy tale awakens and captivates a dream.
It gives the child the first sense of the heroic, it teaches courage and fidelity;
she teaches him to contemplate human destiny, the complexity of the world, the difference between "truth and falsehood."
I. A. Ilyin.

To begin with, let's imagine the mechanism (so far it is difficult to call it thinking), according to which your child lives.

At the age of one year, the child is on the path of developing his sensory-motor skills. He studies his sensory and motor abilities, learns about mom, dad, the world around him through the senses, his movements and communication with objects.

The most important thing in his life is to crawl to the intended goal, get it, climb it, feel it, taste it, knock on the floor, shake it, take it apart, break it, and so on. The child can only keep in mind what is now or very recently was in the field of his direct perception. The complex adult world, rules and prohibitions are still inaccessible to children's understanding.

During this period, the mother has the greatest influence on the child, the words and actions that she has in relation to the child. These can be lullabies, words in which the desire of the child is felt, rhymes that encourage the child to play with various objects, any sentence that pushes the child to move, to become aware of his own body and its position in space.

At the age of up to 2 years, the child is already able to keep in his head some household actions - hold, take, eat, get, etc. He is also aware of the simplest actions of fairy tale characters. Therefore, at this age, he likes fairy tales about animals, because. they are emotionally close to the child, he compares himself with the heroes of a fairy tale and learns vital information in the form of images. At the same time, such “absorption” occurs without pressure from the parents. The child does not like instructions, and the fairy tale does not teach directly. Repeating after adults or characters, children enjoy imitating movements and sounds, learning colors, counting, inventing new ways of interacting with surrounding objects and people.

At the age of 2 to 5, the child develops the ability to think, he learns to figuratively imagine characters and situations in his mind, to fantasize, your baby is ready to perceive fairy tales. The child will be able to perceive an image separated from his actions. Here it is worth noting that a new level of intellectual development is the cause of the fears that are associated with the characters of fairy tales. For example, that Baba Yaga will not take away Ivasik-Telesik, but himself.

Fantasy at this age is completely unformed, parents have the opportunity to correct it. Therefore, start with fairy tales with a simple plot and a small number of characters and always end with a happy ending. The fairy tale should increase the child's confidence in himself and his future, and not scare him. An example of such fear is a dense forest, Koschey and other negative characters. So, at the age of 2-5, a child should find his meaning in a fairy tale, it should diversify his life, and not frighten him and limit his development. For example, a child may learn that there are other countries, peoples who speak other languages, and so on.

At 5-7 years old, you need to choose such fairy tales that are interesting to the child, stimulate his curiosity, activate his imagination, and develop intelligence. A fairy tale should touch all aspects of a child's life: behavior, emotions, family, thinking, imagination. In fairy tales and characters, the child is looking for ways to solve their pressing problems, girls begin to dream of a prince on a white horse, a castle and a personal dragon. The child is easily carried away in his fantasies into his own universe, into the desired reality.

Raising children with a fairy tale

A fairy tale can be used not only for educational purposes, thanks to fairy tales, children develop figurative and logical thinking in a child, stimulate the development of his creative abilities, and his acquaintance with the natural world becomes more meaningful. Teachers develop special methods of education with a fairy tale, notes and materials for classes with children. In addition to parents, such methods will be useful for kindergarten teachers and primary school teachers. There is also a whole section - fairy tale therapy, which helps to cultivate positive qualities and effectively fights children's whims.

In this regard, the book of L. B. Fesyukov "Education with a fairy tale" is highly valued, which can be downloaded from our website: L. B. Fesyukova. Download "Education with a fairy tale."

A fairy tale as a means of education is a responsible matter. For any child, a fairy tale must be selected carefully, with special attention. Remember that during this period the character is formed in the child, and the stories and characters with which you introduce the crumbs have an impact on his character, the role of a fairy tale in raising children can hardly be overestimated.

Interesting stories that you dress in a fairy tale, preferably personalized, are a good way to cultivate the necessary character traits in a child and at the same time avoid lectures and an instructive tone that is always perceived negatively. But an interesting story will always be in place!

Choose fairy tales in which good triumphs over evil, and kindness is always rewarded. The child will project these good qualities onto himself. He will see that it is kindness, love, ingenuity, courage that are important in life.

Therefore, it is important that when choosing a fairy tale, parents pay attention to the following aspects:
- Does the fairy tale correspond to the level of development of the child?
- Will the child be able to perceive the fabulous universe that you offer him?
- can a fairy tale frighten a child and harm his mental development?
- will the fairy tale help in the formation of positive qualities in the character of the child and will it help in solving the psychological problems of the child (if any)?

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