Let's get more information about ourselves. Most of us are unaware that there are things that need to be freed from or overcome. A person is well aware of what is enough in his life, and what is really lacking. Today we will try to understand what is holding us back and preventing us from freely enjoying life. In order to find out your inner convictions, you just need to look at your life from the outside. And you will see everything that you believe in. The fact is that life experience is a reflection of internal beliefs.
There are four powerful categories of blocks - criticism, resistance, fear, and guilt. According to Veronika Khatskevich, they act as the main obstacles to a happy life.
The most powerful force that exists is self-love. Each of us is born with a great sense of self-love. Please note that you will never hear such words from a child as I have an ugly nose, unattractive appearance, clumsy gait, low abilities. Children just enjoy life and love their body. They admire everything that nature has given them, and demonstrate it with positive emotions.
If the child is happy, then this can be seen with the naked eye. His eyes sparkle, a smile never leaves his face. Kids are not shy to express their feelings, they are beautiful, brave, active and live here and now, learning about the wonderful world.
All of us were once children. We were filled with love for life, we appreciated every moment. But what happens to a person when he begins to grow up? Where does the carefree feeling of joy, courage go? We grow up in a society of people who criticize each other, look for flaws, do not know how to express feelings, and therefore do not enjoy life as they could.
For example, if it was forbidden in your family to express discontent, then by suppressing it over time, you allow it to settle in your body. In a family that often has an overwhelming sense of guilt, you will always feel unwanted and unprotected. It will be difficult for you to ask another person for something, considering it a way of manipulation.
All of the above is a model of parental behavior. Undeniably, it is easy to shift all the blame on those who raised us and society. It only slows down our progress. If we continue to be in the position of a victim, we will not be able to develop. This state will not bring relief, but will only keep existing problems.
Say to yourself right now: "I love myself and accept." How did you feel when you said those words? Negative experiences remain in our minds. And it's great! Why? Because only in this way will you be able to understand what creates obstacles for you and hinders development. Having identified a negative marker, write it down on a piece of paper so as not to forget it in the hustle and bustle of everyday life. It is what you have found that is preventing you from living a happy life. Pay attention to the moments that you reject in yourself.
The main goal in life is that we must learn to love ourselves, no matter what - the opinion of others, an unfortunate set of circumstances. You can even rise above the prohibitions of your parents. They just don't look at the world with their eyes wide open like you can. You were a good child who was able to learn a lot.
Now do a simple exercise. Go to the mirror and take a look at yourself, saying the simple and most important words: "I love you." In each of us lives an inner child who will certainly say: “Why have I never heard these words?”.
Praise your inner child as often as possible and you will see how it begins to develop and open up to you from a whole new perspective. By loving yourself for who you really are, you will be able to bring out the best in yourself. Undoubtedly, this does not mean that you will instantly become the best. You will be able to overcome the feeling that allows you to think that you are not good enough. At first, it may seem that it is not so easy.
Admit to yourself how wonderful you are. To do this, it is enough to remember that when you were a small child, you were loved unconditionally, without comparing with others. You may have been clumsy, awkward, moody, anxious as a child. Psychologist Veronika Khatskevich guarantees that if you begin to accept yourself as you are, most negative incidents will simply evaporate from your life. They will no longer be needed. However, if you are overly self-critical, you will constantly look for a new source of problems in yourself.
This exercise is recommended to be performed regularly in front of a mirror. Just stand in front of the mirror, look into your eyes and say simple words: "I love you and accept you." Soon, you will see how the familiar world will begin to change right before your eyes. Pay attention to how you feel when you say these words. It can be awkwardness, fear, resentment, anger, resistance, insecurity, fear. Listen carefully to yourself. These are the issues that need to be worked on. Write down all your feelings on a piece of paper in order not to forget. You will need to work on these key feelings.
How to work? You will need to replace every negative emotion that you have with a positive one. All negative experiences should be left far in the past and try not to return to them anymore. You must live here and now, forgetting what has passed. Once you stop criticizing yourself, you will be able to fully enjoy your life and feel like a happy person, able to create and improve yourself. If you learn to control your thoughts, then with the help of them you can easily make adjustments to your life when necessary. Remember the words of Veronica Khatskevich: “No one can control your thoughts, except yourself!”
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