Question for a psychologist.
Help me forget the guy, please. I dated a guy for 1.5 years. He broke-up with me. This is my first love! A few months later, he started dating someone else, and a month later, I started dating someone else. Since then, 3 years have passed. He and I continue to meet with our chosen ones. I love my boyfriend, but not as much as my ex. I often remember him, and at the same time, my friends are still part of the company where he is. And because I know all the smallest details of his life. All their quarrels, showdowns, and the fact that he became like a rag in front of his girlfriend. And I feel so sorry for him. But still I love him. I want to forget the guy, but I can't!
And the worst thing is that he is getting married today! And I sob all day and think, why am I worse? And so I want to forget him, but for some reason I can not. Help me please! Julia
Psychologist's answer:
Hello Julia!
Unfortunately, it is not in my power to help you how to forget your ex-boyfriend, and I think you suspected it ... As far as I understood from your letter, you broke up three years ago at the initiative of a young man. Julia, alas, but in life it happens when one loves, and the second does not ... I don’t know if I will please you, but you are not the first, you are not the last. I understand that you still love, and you have a right to it. The right to torment and torment himself, but not his. And how do you think that he really loves that other one and is happy with her ?! But what if it was in her that he found what he was looking for? Yes, there are disappointments in life, but you will have to come to terms with this, and the sooner you do this, the better for you.
Have you ever wondered what it is like for your current young man to live next to a girl whose heart is given to another, and not so much given as given on his own initiative? Do you think it is easier for him than for you? I know you will say that you have not told him anything like that, and he does not even guess. But believe me, it is impossible to hide it, no matter how hard a person tries! Passion manifests itself in many ways that cannot be controlled: look, behavior, etc.
Now take a look at what happens:
1. A young man, having parted with one girl three years ago, starts dating another and, in the end, marries her.
2. A girl getting married and hoping that no stranger will interfere with her happiness.
3. You are all in suffering and sorrow.
4. And your young man, who, like you, cannot understand why he is worse?
In total we have: 4 restless people, and all because of one girl in love (I have big doubts about falling in love). Well, how? Beautiful?
I don't think this is about love. Will explain. First, of course, there is a wounded female pride, after all, they parted with you. Second, it's been so long! Thirdly, you have been in a different relationship for a long time. You say that you felt sorry for him, and pity is not the best feeling that you can feel for a person.
Julia, try at least once to look at him with a “sober” look. Believe me, everyone has their shortcomings. And if you really can’t cope with your attraction at all, urgently look for flaws in it and sort them out with all care. Did he become a "rag"? So rejoice in this fact, and the fact that this is not your rug, after which hand disinfection is necessary ... Treat this as a game.
There is one more moment that will not allow you to completely forget about him for a long time: your girlfriends, who are happy to tell you about his couple and their relationship. Well, why do you need it? Say you don't want to hear about him (I know you do, but still)! “Go head first” into your relationship, otherwise you will yearn for the lost, which, perhaps, never belonged to you, you will lose what is really dear to you. You know how they say: what we have, we don’t keep, having lost it with crying ... I would not want this to be your case ...
Believe in yourself and be yourself!
Good luck!
Lana
12/03/2011 at 23:49
Girls, how to stop loving and forget a guy? I would like some real advice. What would be new to do? How do you fight depression?
Victoria
01/04/2011 at 12:52
Lana, forgetting the guy you love is very difficult. It will be easier if you can find a new hobby.
If there is another guy that you like even a little bit, try to be attracted to him.
If you really enjoy his communication, perhaps it will develop into something strong. And of course, the option is to hit school or work.
Christina
16/06/2011 at 00:53
Forgetting your first love is impossible. It is easier to find a new object of sighing. It really helps, but not for everyone. Look for something in another young man that was not in the first. Good luck!
Elmirochka
21/06/2011 at 21:45
I didn’t break up with the guy ... I didn’t even meet him, no matter how much I wanted to, because I love him ... At the beginning of our acquaintance, he was in love with one girl, so I hoped that we would just be friends ... but somehow everything started spinning, kisses, meetings, albeit rare ... we just had hugging kisses, they never talked about us, he didn’t even stutter, but nevertheless he didn’t let go, he constantly reminded himself of himself, especially how he gets drunk, calls or writes there .... it has been going on for 2 months, but I love him for almost a year.
But now he seems to have begun to lose interest in me, and I have less and less panic, and I am completely confused, I don’t know what to do! I know that it’s humiliating for me to agree to such a relationship and it seems to many that he is using me, but I can’t without it! Tell me, what should I do?? What is the right thing to do on your part??
Masha
25/06/2011at 01:26
I didn’t meet and didn’t part with a guy. Something in between. I saw him for the first time at my school (in gymnasium No. 7). It was love at first sight. I was then in the 6th grade, and he was in 8. I thought for a year and a half that he liked me. I thought he didn’t want to date because of my age. I recently found out that he doesn’t like me. I still don’t believe it. I don’t see it .. I DON’T KNOW HOW TO FORGET IT, HELP (((
real estate lawyer
29/06/2011 at 14:22
The problem of gender relations is that they are not "opposite" as they often write, but different.
A common mistake of many is that they either rush relationships, or vice versa, relationships go into such a long state of uncertainty that no one has the strength or visible reasons to bring them to some reasonable end - break, love or friendship.
In this situation, whatever one may say, friends and the proximity of the place of residence will prevent you from "forgetting" the former or the former.
Still sometimes we are in too much of a hurry sometimes to live.
And if you have “I want a relationship” written on your forehead, “I want to get married or get married”, people will shy away from you, just communicate.
Katerinka
30/06/2011 at 16:54
My advice to you girls!
Look for a new object of sighing. Everyone has some kind of ideal - for example, an actor, a singer.
I like Johnny Depp, he helped me get through the breakup.
It seemed that I would never forget the guy I dated for 4 years, BUT! I always liked Johnny Depp, I started watching films with him, thinking how cool he is, falling asleep and imagining myself with him ... well, you understand - then we get married, then we kiss, then something else ... and quietly, in a couple of months
I no longer needed the memories of the old guy.
I met a new friend, and Johnny Depp - you don’t have to forget him, he is always there 🙂
Valentine
21/07/2011 at 14:29
Help me please, I really like the boy, he is my classmate, he is dating my best friend, he loves her, but I think that he is not indifferent to me either, he constantly hurts me, even though we don’t communicate with him, he pays too much attention to me, says something touches I don’t know what to do anymore, I’m 15 years old, and because of him I can’t find anyone for myself and it really annoys me.
Alexandra
27/09/2011 at 21:20
Help if you can ...
I had a relationship with a guy for a while, but then we broke up on my initiative, because I was sure that I completely lost interest in him. A month passed and he found himself another, at first I thought “Well, okay!”, And then I got very jealous. His relationship with that girl was extremely short: less than a month. Now he and I are alone. And it seems. I still love him, but he, probably, after a new relationship, has already forgotten about me, not that he loves. What to do? How can I forget him or find out if he feels anything for me (which I highly doubt)?
Irina
24/10/2011 at 21:14
i lived with a guy for 3 years. everything was fine. but suddenly i found out that he cheated on me... of course i left immediately. it was very hard, because all this time i depended on him. not in this, after 2 months he began to appear in my life, although I avoided it in every possible way. everyone thought that we would get along and then I find out that he has been living with a girl for a month ... I don’t know how I survive these 2 years (he married this girl, but he doesn’t leave me alone, he is constantly looking for meetings with me ...) at a meeting, I pretend that everything is fine with me, but my heart is breaking ... I don’t know how to forget him. help
Natalie
11/12/2011 at 00:38
hello girls! and everything turned out stupidly for me. I loved him with all my heart, lived only by our meetings, such plans were made by a fool) and then bang! wedding. not ours. him and her. one thing .. the first six months without him, I just don’t remember, everything is black and white. then I slowly got to my feet. hope and these calls. then I find out he will have a daughter. again a blow. he became a dad. he called Natasha, like me.. 3 years have passed. now I live with a young man. the love of which he enveloped me, but how I would like to love him as passionately and devotedly as that person from the past. It doesn’t work out yet, but I try. The most cruel thing is that I, that the former moved to live in the capital and as it turned out we live through a friend from a friend! Fate joked again? I learned this from him, recently he called again.
Aigerim
11/12/2011 at 15:43
Hello! I dated the guy who dumped me! He left for another city forever! before his departure, we normally met, he said that he would leave for a week to a friend’s birthday and would immediately arrive, but he said, but maybe I’ll stay there if the work turns up better! I saw him off, he didn’t call first, I called him myself! Then I call, he says (I found a job, I won’t come, forget me! I’ll call you when I get home) After that, I have terrible depression, it’s hard for me to forget him, he cut everything off so abruptly!
Nastya
05/01/2012 at 17:15
We met with a guy for the second year ... we parted many times, but then I forgave and were together again ... and now he says that we need to leave because he is jealous of everyone and this hurts me and myself. we remained friends, but I want to more, I can’t forget him. what if he comes back, I don’t want to meet him, but I want to be with him. I’m afraid to get burned again ... help what to do?
Elka
06/01/2012 at 00:07
For two months now I can’t forget him, everything turned out very stupid (but I think that you don’t need to hang your nose!))) girls, change, become better so that when your ex sees you, they already gasped and regretted that they didn’t stay with such beauty))) and one more thing: in a relationship there always comes a time of calm, when there are no longer those hot feelings and you want to return everything ... but don’t snap at the guys, wait a while, ignore them and don’t impose this love, and everything will pass ... and think before how to say or write something, otherwise it will be like with me, blurted out “Well, that's it”, so he decided that everything ... before that there was just a lot of things, it was the last straw ... I really want to see him, but he leaves for another city, I will also go there to study soon, let's see what happens.
Anika
14/01/2012 at 15:48
girls help! I dated my boyfriend for a year, and as soon as my mother found out, she forcibly forced me to leave him! him, but I can’t start everything again like my mother did and does everything that I don’t see and can’t contact him! WHAT SHOULD I DO? I miss ... and love him!
Yanochka
23/01/2012 at 21:56
Hello everyone girls!
I would also like to share with you and listen to your comments and advice.
It has been more than 2 years since I broke up with a guy on my initiative. Until now, I have not had a serious relationship, how to say I have not found a worthy one. He is already married and his daughter is about to be born. Sick Yes. very unpleasant, or vice versa, very happy for him, I can’t figure it out. But he dreams, I often think about him. Pts I want to forget it, just take it and forget it, and start life from the beginning, but something doesn’t work out. I can’t really explain what is happening to me, probably after such a period of time I realized that I love, and even the worst thing in this situation is that I seem to be monogamous. I wanted to hear at least something from a psychologist and just from girls with similar situations. I know that I am not the first and, alas, not the last, but how to deal with this????????????????
Victoria
30/01/2012 at 17:47
I met a guy, but he broke up with a girl a month ago, whom he met for 8 years. As he says, he has a strong feeling for me, but he needs time ... It kills me, because I love him, and since he needs time, then he can’t forget her ... 3 months have passed, I asked him if he had an idea or not , he said that there is not yet ... I don’t know what to do, I have him as a fallback. He does not hold me, but he does not let go ... What should I do? So I can't take it anymore!
Elizabeth
01/02/2012 at 18:30
I met a guy on the internet, at first I saw his photo and just fell madly in love with this man. After 3 months of dating, we saw each other, but realized that we would not have anything, but still continued to communicate. Then our meetings continued and I realized that I can no longer live without this person, and so we started dating, everything was fine. But he went to study in another city. When he left, we swore fidelity and love to each other. After he left, I couldn’t find a place for myself, I thought about him , we talked in the agent and were already thinking about our future together, we even came up with names for future children. with girls who were not very pleasant. And now we broke up, I can’t forget him, everything reminds me of him, tears often flow at night, there is a desire to do that thread with you, but this is not an option, but he has appeared girl. and it hurts me a lot. Tell me how to forget the person you still love ???
Irina
12/02/2012 at 19:06
I lived with my boyfriend for 7 years, everything was good and bad. But then he stopped coming home to spend the night. an empty closet and a broken heart. After talking with my friends, I erased all his phones. I started dating someone else, I thought I’d forget, but he picked up and called a month later, just to find out how things were going. And all my feelings returned, now I don’t know what to do. I'm trying to force myself not to call him, but I can't. How can I forget???
Anastasia
19/02/2012 at 19:28
I broke up with a guy, or rather, he left me, I love him very much, how can I forget? Dating for 4 months! do you think he will come back? I don’t even know why they broke up, he says that feelings have faded
Stella
26/02/2012 at 21:16
hello girls =) my story is this! we have known each other for about a year i.e. we didn’t meet, we just stopped in clubs, we corresponded in social networks, I didn’t even imagine that we would be together) we just talked like acquaintances, etc.) and that’s how we accidentally met in the club, and somehow we kissed , to be honest, I didn’t betray this value))) the next morning he called me, we chatted, then very often he called for 3 hours on the mobile chatting))) I was fascinated by him, somehow we decided to meet, and after this meeting it rushed))) We were together for 2 months, but then I don’t know what happened, they stopped calling each other (there was never such a thing, min. 3 times we talked a day) since then about 3 months have passed, and I can’t forget him, believe it or not no, but I fall asleep thinking about him and wake up ... and so for 3 months ... we are going to meet 5 times already, but we don’t meet.
Love
04/03/2012 at 12:13
Hello Girls.. Yes, I read many comments and all the stories are so complicated. I don’t know what to advise you, I myself now need advice .. I met a guy for about half a year, parted several times. The day before yesterday we had a little fight and he offered to leave, I didn’t want to, I cried, and forgetting my pride, I asked him not to leave me, the quarrel was small, I just told him that I didn’t like his irresponsible behavior. I know that he also has some feelings for me, but he is very strong, if he wants, he can forget about me, and he promised that he would try to forget me .. Everything falls out of my hands if he returns I think there will be no such relationship, he will use me and my feelings, he will do what he wants, and if he doesn’t return, I won’t be able to .. I don’t want to suffer, this is a terrible feeling, I can’t eat or sleep .. My friends are almost are always in his neighborhood, I can't help but ask how he is, if he says anything about me. I just went from a strong person to an addict ..((
Tatiana
15/03/2012 at 14:41
Help, our relationship lasted 1.5 years, I can’t imagine stronger than love, complete trust, awe. reconciled, in general, like everyone else ... abruptly, one day he said that he wanted to be alone, that he was tired, that he wanted to remain friends, but I can’t fall asleep without him, I don’t eat, I don’t sleep, I don’t know how to return ... I can’t let go , I can’t put up with it, it means too much to me, too much ... not much more and it will blow my mind ... he couldn’t just like that .. he couldn’t ...
Natalia
01/04/2012 at 02:26
Hello girls!
All stories are complicated… Mine, unfortunately, too. It was like this: I didn’t meet him ... We were just very good friends and talked ... And he said that he liked me. Most recently, he said that he used to rejoice at my every message, every meeting, waited for communication ... And now ... He said that he didn’t like me and that he didn’t enjoy talking with me ... I think that in such situations, absolutely all girls try stay proud... Well, I also answered him that I would not force him to communicate... And so on. and so on. Well, it all ended with the fact that I said that it was all over! I really didn’t want this, but I should be proud ... But suddenly he sent a letter where he said that I misunderstood everything and so on ... I don’t know what to do ... I can’t forget him, but I can’t stand another deception either … Girls, psychologists, just women with experience, please help! I am waiting for answers and comments… Thank you in advance, Natalia.
ANGELINA
01/04/2012 at 21:05
HELP ME PLEASE, I HAVE SUCH A PROBLEM I DATED WITH A GUY, THEN HE LEFT ME AND THIS IS MY FIRST LOVE ALREADY HALF A YEAR HAVE PASSED I CAN'T FORGET ALL OF HIM PLUS I SEE HIM ALWAYS AT SCHOOL, HIS NEW D EVUSHKA ETC. …. AND I AM BAD WITHOUT IT HOW DO I FORGET IT PROMPT????
Olga
11/04/2012at 01:06
author, at least you meet someone. the man whom I love for 3 years in England, we broke up a year before his departure. total: for 4 years now I have been suffering from it. At first I thought it would pass, but I can’t even start a relationship with others. a maximum of 2 months, from which I go on dates with disgust and in the end I understand that nothing will come of it - I break up.
cunning
11/04/2012 at 22:05
Hello) Please help with advice!
I've known a guy for 2 years (we study at the same institute).
He is 4 years older than me. Communication is purely friendly. bylo.He often helped me with my studies, rested together, kissed a couple of times, but no more. He had a relationship with a girl for 3 years, if you can call it that. For 3 years, they broke up 6-7 times and started again. She constantly dripped on his brains. Somehow we were left alone with him, touched on the topic of complexes. I asked him to tell me what he thinks of me.
He: “you have complexes, you are afraid to do what you want, not resolute” I made up my mind, got up and kissed him. Then I came to my senses, he started dating the girl again (for the 100500th time). he cannot understand himself, he does not see a future with her, she is a habit, and he needs time. I would not believe it, but his best friend is dating my best friend. She told me this for a long time. A couple of weeks passed and they broke up completely, she framed him and his mother, he did not forgive and broke off the relationship.
Well, I decided to confess to him. She wrote that she was in love. (Probably a fool that she wrote.) He offered to talk live. “I’ve known about your feelings for a long time, we’ve known each other for a long time, you yourself know that I recently broke up with a girl and I’m not physically ready for any relationship right now, especially since they can take me to the army in a week, then in general. And just to make you a girl for the night, the principle will not allow me, then you will suffer yourself. In general, let's leave everything as it is. Of course I agreed. What else to do? But in my heart .. I am ready to wait for him even from the army .. I am ready for anything.
The only question is, does he need it? No.. I don't think so. It's just really hard - this is the first guy I fell in love with in the last 3 years. And so there were options, but it did not work, because of my indifference. Help me! Advise what to do? Forget? Will not work. very difficult.
cunning
11/04/2012 at 22:14
And another question torments me: he does not want to make me a girl for the night.
Of course, my own upbringing will not allow me, principles. I am not a girl of easy virtue, only being in a relationship and out of love. But anyway? Why did he say so? Am I really not attracted to him, or is he so right? .. His best friend said that he likes me, but .. As you can see, he doesn’t want to start a relationship yet. So I can’t figure it out: this is a competent rollback (I basically think so) or he really doesn’t want a relationship yet, because his last girl ruined his nerves in order ..
cunning
13/04/2012 at 20:52
Please help with advice)) It's very hard now ..
Eni
13/04/2012 at 22:11
help ...
a guy in ICQ talked to me and said that he liked me, I immediately said that we would not have anything. And they were just friendly. here not so long ago he wrote to me that his friend likes me. I asked this guy, he said he was just embarrassed to tell me himself. and it is true. I didn’t believe it, because they communicated exclusively through contact, I thought it was a joke. agreed to take a walk. took a walk, I realized that this is not a joke. then he commented on all the pictures to me, stuck hearts on the wall and the like. offered to put the cn supposedly so everyone saw us. I refused, said it was too early. Then they walked again ... after they agreed, but for some reason he couldn’t, after that he himself suggested that we go for a walk again through a friend, but I couldn’t and said that I was so tired ... that he couldn’t all the time. . .all this was on vacation. they ended, and since I said that I can’t, he hasn’t communicated with me. it seems to say hello, but no more ... in contact, as soon as I go in, he comes out ... I don’t know what to do. I like it... please help..
nozia
14/04/2012 at 07:29
Hello girls…
My story is completely ridiculous… First we met in an agent and we talked with him as friends, played games (also in the chat)… then he began to hint that he fell in love with me… but I
Mario
16/04/2012 at 20:42
Girls, I ask you to help me, my ex met for a total of 1.5 years and during this time we broke up 8 times, but our last meeting happened when we were drunk and I blew my virginity, and after that he dumped me again, blaming me for what it is there was revenge for those 1.5 years, but I don’t want to believe it, because everyone said that his thoughts are only about me, I don’t know what to do, I still love him a little, but I can’t forget, is this probably first love? ?? help me ask ... .. I can’t do this anymore
TANYA
22/04/2012 at 20:08
help me forget my husband, we lived for 10 years, did he cheat on me?
pretzel
17/05/2012 at 14:54
girls, I don’t know what to do! I met a guy a long time ago! we went to school together! we even sat at the same desk together! we had true love! he was my first in everything !!! just like I was with him ! we were together for 2 years! but then I began to communicate via SMS with another guy, continuing to meet with my own! The guy wrote via SMS that he loved me, all sorts of gentle SMS. At the same time, he never saw me! he served in the army! I told him answered, but there was no talk of love! in the end, my boyfriend read all the sms. we had a big scandal because of this! and we parted ways!!! the guy began to walk! with other girls, women! that he would not mind returning everything! he cheated on me with a 40 woman! and with my girlfriend! drunk!!! I was not pleased to hear it of course! and for myself I decided that we would never be together again! the guy who served came through 6 months. we met! we started a relationship! they lasted almost a year! my mother was against him! he turned out to be an ordinary gigolo! I already understand this now!!! but then he was the best for me!!! we parted and very bad !!!!time has passed,I am now talking with the first guy!I married his friend!it happened!I waited for him from the army!we got married!my first boyfriend was a witness at our wedding!and later became godfather to our son! !! everything seems to be fine! but sometimes I remember those days spent together with the first guy! he was affectionate with me!
what should I do???? how to forget the past???? tell me!!!!
Nastya...=((
18/05/2012 at 19:31
how we are all alike .... and everyone has one problem, how much I would like to help you all, but I don’t know how, because I feel bad too, I just don’t have the strength anymore, I loved a guy for about 4 years, we met with him, we often fought but reconciled again, he used me, but I didn’t notice, not so long ago he began to roll up to me again, I said that I would think, and that same evening he walked and kissed with another girl in front of my eyes ... I roared all night, went with him talk, and he made me guilty, as if he didn’t promise me anything, didn’t say that he loves, but the day before that he confessed his feelings ... and the worst thing is that he is my classmate and I see him every day, and it feels like my heart is breaking every day into pieces ... if someone knows how I can forget him, I beg you to help me .. (((
Julia
18/05/2012 at 21:13
I broke up with my boyfriend almost 4 years ago (we were together for 3.5 years) and I still love him. To forget him, I started dating someone else, we have been together for 3 years. But there is not a day that I don’t remember the former. he wanted to reconcile, but I couldn’t do this with the current guy, take it and leave it as if I was using it ... he is also in a relationship, but he wanted to return me. his heart beats quickly with excitement and happiness in his eyes, but alas, today I found out that he will soon become a dad in just a couple of months. This is the punishment. It’s like I’ve been hit on the head, I’m sitting and I don’t know how to continue to live now. While I thought she was pregnant. So that's it. Now there is definitely no turning back. I'm 28 and I still can't decide on a family and children with another. I only think about my Andryul. I have been walking around not myself for three years, I forgot what happiness is. And now I have no idea how I will get myself out of this depression. Girls, don't cut off your shoulders! Always think before you easily leave someone you probably can't live without. I wish you all great happiness, let there be no such situations !!! Love and be loved!!! Reciprocity of love and all the best!
lana
10/06/2012 at 19:26
Girls, help me forget a loved one!!
Met for a year. We thought and talked about the wedding. We lived together. All was good. In January, he said that he did not love. Friends, parents, everyone says that he was afraid of the wedding and the seriousness of our relationship. I tried to remain friends with him, but he insists that I do not call or write. To be happy. He is with another and I am with another. I still think about him. I love? Probably, but not so strongly and recklessly. Empty inside. How to stop thinking about him, feeling sorry for yourself? I'm afraid to lose faith in love ...
Vaselisa Bessonova
25/07/2012 at 03:29
Help me forget. I met a guy a long time ago, I didn’t want to meet him at all, I avoided him. But last summer, she agreed. We dated for 6 months, he is my first boyfriend in every sense. I loved him terribly, and he loved me, for sure! But when she left for school, the attitude worsened. They broke up after New Years. And then they started dating again, but broke up again. I don't know if I love him. when I see my heart pounding and tears welling up. Because I'm starting to remember how good it was with him.
lilia
05/08/2012 at 00:00
hi all!
I'm Lily, I'm 14! my story is like this before when i was 10 years old i met a guy he was 13 ! so I thought every day, even though I was small) then I found out that my sister liked him, who at that time was also 13)) he confessed to her right in front of me !!
I wanted to forget him for so long ((but not how ((well, 3 years have passed since then and we talked all that) and so I added him in social networks)) and then one day we got into such a good conversation and then bam we quarreled and again didn’t communicate for a year and I confessed my love to him ((and now I’m 14 we tried it off, sort of like that, so I saw him recently, he held out to me to say hello and imagine I didn’t pay attention to the fool and tonight the brothers who walk with him in the evening said that today he will introduce
his girlfriend to them ((and I still love him now)) and that's what I should do ?? how to win his heart
Esmeralda
20/08/2012 at 14:16
Dear girls, girls, our life is so complicated that no one can imagine, I also have a difficult story and I really want to be helped, I am 15 years old and he is 17, we met for two years, all this time he lived in another city, but we saw each other very often, he was so gentle and affectionate, he constantly talked about love, he also had big plans, but he came to me 5 times a week, although we were separated by 120 kilometers, and he was finishing grade 11, I love him so much , but today he said that he probably doesn’t love, and there’s nothing left, and constantly asks for forgiveness, says that his conscience has played, I don’t know, really for all these two years I didn’t mean anything to him, although he is the first in everything, like I have him, and love is the very first. What should I do? Could he really fall in love? Or is it just now that we are in the same city with him and he is afraid that when we leave it will be hard again? Tell me something to make it easier, and answers to all my questions
I'd rather not be named
20/08/2012 at 17:37
I'm wildly ashamed to write all this ... but I can't ... someone help me. I dream about him every night, I cry for days, smoke and drink. although I don’t smoke and don’t drink ... I have real tantrums, I bang my head against the wall, I break my hands so that my hands hurt, not my thoughts ... I don’t want anything, everything’s not right without him ... I’m already ashamed to whine, but nothing goes away ... at the age of 20 my whole parting became gray ... for the first time in my life I want to be pitied.
Elena
22/08/2012 at 00:38
Hello. I met a guy for 4 months, then we broke up, six months have passed. now he has another, but I still can’t forget him. Help me please!
Yulchik
11/09/2012 at 22:14
Girls! We need to find inspiration, do something that will distract. Guys they are such goats, even though we love them, when they achieve their goal, lose interest, look for something new. One thing I know for sure is that if you changed, then you should not return , will enjoy.
Yulchik
11/09/2012 at 22:18
I myself dated a guy for 4 years, then broke up. I suffered for a year, met another, but it was still hard to forget, and he made another offer, you know, he fell so in my eyes after that that all my feelings for him faded, although I loved him very much.
Kristinaistina
27/09/2012 at 10:45
SOS! Hello, girls! I need someone's help, I really don’t know what happened! I met a guy from the age of 16, we met for 4 years and broke up! I’ve been suffering for 5 years and I can’t forget him! and I don’t know the meaning of life and there is no goal, I feel and behave like an omeba, I just hate myself like that! Nothing helps! I completely changed myself and my life, even moved to another country! The relationship was already 2 times, and one is now continuing! I just don’t want to lose this person, but he just doesn’t understand what is happening to me, although he guesses! I want everything as it was with the first guy! Although he will cheat on me with my own girlfriends, I was ready to close my eyes to everything, and the fact that he even started living with another girl is just everything!
It’s just that without this person I can’t imagine my life and what should I do in general and what should I strive for. Tell me what to do ???
Yes, a week ago I found out that he married a girl whose name is also Christina! And my heart just bleeds! I don’t want anything with him anymore, he has his own family and I will never climb and won’t even give a reason for my part she somehow staggered! This is his life.
I understand perfectly well that I need to do my own, but how I just can’t!
Yes, we are still talking about that.
ask how each other is doing??? etc.!!! How can I live I don’t know how to get out of this state !!!
Anna
28/09/2012 at 12:01
And I have an interesting story. Everything is the opposite. We met for 1.5 months. I broke up with my boyfriend because I didn't want to give him hope for a future relationship. I love him. He seems to like me too. And I broke up with him because of his illness and unwillingness to give up a bad habit that could ruin him. Knowing that a person cannot be remade, but it is hard to come to terms with this. I ended the relationship first. It hurts me as much as if he left me. I really wanted to call, but I am a strong-willed person by nature and, if I make a decision, then forever. I know that I love him and we could have a good relationship, maybe a family. I wonder what the psychologist thinks about this?
Diana
19/10/2012 at 12:50
Hello, help me how to forget a guy, we have known each other for a long time, we didn’t communicate at all for a long time. We started dating in February and broke up a month later. But we still continue to communicate and see each other periodically, I can’t let him go. Tell me what to do. Although I know that he hangs out forever with different girls (((. But at the same time, he doesn’t let me go, he communicates with me, and I can’t find the strength in myself and just ignore him.
Valeria
30/10/2012 at 15:44
Hi all!
Two years ago I met a guy, very soon after we met, we started dating. It was love at first breath, at first sight ... with me! (We met for a very short time: a month, and after that he was drafted into the army. I saw him off at the station and he told me: “Now you are everything to me!” It was the beginning of the end ... After that, he very rarely answered my letters, rarely called, while I was going crazy! In his company there was one girl, his alleged friend, she didn’t like me and one day she wrote to me in contact: “Forget him, he doesn't need you now! I know he's your first boyfriend (in bed). He's not yours and never will be!" two months I realized that I can’t do this, I realized that without him I’m like a plant ... I decided to return to him, but he politely sent me and said that he only needed one night! Two years have passed, but it seems to me that two weeks He is getting married soon, he loves his fiancee and she loves him very much, and also... soon they will become parents... In addition to him, I have a lot of external problems. I haven't slept since, I can't! I understand that you do not write me the answer to my question, but at least thank you for speaking out!!!
Alina
19/11/2012 at 00:34
We are stupid, that's all. Our ambitions go sideways, we must learn to be wise. but a good thought comes after .. Our men have not learned to be worthy of us, because we allowed it .. Get together, put yourself in order, get out of depression, welcome the positive, put on the most chic outfit, nose up and a beautiful walk forward conquer peaks ... Work, here is salvation and you will forget and look back capital and there is a career .. Forward Girls. Men will not appreciate that you are suffering .. I went through it, I advise.
ritual
30/11/2012 at 15:51
I advise (especially to those whose relationship was interrupted for some unknown reason) to remove their pride, just call him and say “Hi”, and then the conversation will start word by word.
It is possible to arrange a meeting. I did it myself, of course I was very worried, but it was worth it, we began to meet.
He seemed to be waiting for this call (although I called him 2 years after we broke up). Men, they are also not decisive! The advantage is that you will know exactly the attitude of this person towards you, and not guess about it for years.
Even if he doesn't reciprocate, that's good too!!!
So you can definitely look for a guy. At the same time, if you call first or the first, you will not lose anything from this !!!!
And if you answer rudely, then I think you can answer too! 🙂
Alyona
27/12/2012 at 13:09
And here is my sad story ... I met a guy for almost a year, I probably didn’t love him, we broke up in the spring ... He was the initiator, but it was my fault.
After that, in the summer, quite by accident (he drove up to get acquainted when I was standing at the bus stop, trite and funny), I met a man and for the first time in a long time experienced the strongest feelings, mixed from hatred to insane passion. He deceived me, met with another girl, but did not let me go, he was always there, found, called, waited, begged for meetings, I felt how much he needed me. But I knew for sure that we could never be together, I always told him about it ... in general, he did not try to get a relationship from me, he was not bad in such a suspended state without obligations. Then I began to feel that it was too addictive for me, I tried to push him away forever and not communicate at all ... but everything was repeated again and again, I realized that I love him, it’s hard for me without him, but I didn’t see the prospects with him, for so many reasons ... more than a year and a half has passed since then, we stopped talking about a month ago, he himself finally stopped calling and looking for me. I cried, but kept everything to myself, did not show anyone what was in my soul, reassured myself that everything had passed and I just needed to be glad about it. He may have found himself another toy, which is for the best, but I can’t help my feelings, they come out like boiling water from a saucepan, and every time I hear something about him or see his car, I start just shake and I want back… what is it? how to overcome it? I have forgotten how to even look at other men as men. It's very difficult for me…
Kitty
05/01/2013 at 04:03
Girls, I met a guy for three years, once on his initiative we broke up, but after a couple of days he began to ask to come back, he said that he could not live without me, I took pity on him and accepted him ... that was my mistake! We met for 4 months , it was very good and completely unexpected, like a knife in the back, he calls me and says that we need to seriously talk and meet, I immediately understood everything and did not waste time on sentimental conversations and conversations. For me, this is a huge betrayal. What is most interesting he did not deign to call back and explain to me. A few days later I saw his new passion on social networks, which is significantly inferior to me in all respects (I have a mutual friend with her, I know what kind of fruit this madam is), after a couple of days he uploads pictures with kisses on the very tonsils, full of statuses about crazy love !!! I believed this man so much! he swore that he never cheated on me! somehow I could not stand it and sent him an SMS with the following content: how could you change all this time? how can you be such a bastard?! to which he replied: that he had never cheated on me during the relationship! how to be I don’t know how to forget the insult that gnaws at me so much! more than a month has passed, no, no, but I remember him, I’m painfully offended! this horror story (nothing foreshadowed parting, he even became more tender! how to be? (((
That's how I am
09/01/2013 at 08:27
I read the comments and decided to leave my own. Unlike everyone else, my age is not so young, but I also got into a story. Maybe it will be useful to someone. And it was like that. I was 17-18 years old and it was my first love. Very strong feelings, mutual, but without intimacy. He went to the army, but I didn’t wait, I got married, I had feelings for my husband, but not strong, it seemed like it should be. We lived normally with my husband, every year she loved him more and more, as a result, we lived together for almost 20 years. There were quarrels and grievances, they gave birth to children, got used to each other, everything seemed to be the way it should be. During this time I saw the former 3 times, by chance on the street, in the store. He was married twice and not successfully ended up single. And just recently, looking for me through the social. network, he showed up in my life. I began to say how cool it is about love, etc. I lost my head, it was some kind of obsession, all the time all the thoughts are only about him. It turned out that I had been waiting for him for so many years. As a man, I didn’t like him and I realized that I don’t feel special feelings, but it attracts and pulls. He is very cautious, he does not show initiative, as a result, I myself call and write, forgetting about pride. And it seems that he needs me and at the same time he doesn’t, I need him and at the same time I think that my husband is more important to me, family and children. And now I live on 2 fronts in such uncertainty. I don’t know how to break completely, how to forget, I tried it doesn’t work. Soul reaches out to him. That's how it happens.
lonely
11/01/2013 at 16:44
My advice to you: take it easy! no need to dream, make plans, believe ... .. I used to be stupid .. I believed in all this nonsense! Not at all a guy. he just met a guy. I really liked him. first called, wrote. From the first day we met, he asked me to meet. I agreed. Now I myself feel that he has become worse. He has lost his interest in me. And I believed like a fool. Now I can’t forget about him..
Julia
13/01/2013 at 17:00
hello, please help, I can’t forget the guy who cheated on me, we met for 2 months, everything was fine in our relationship, you can even say excellent, that’s the problem, 1 day ago we talked in the morning everything was fine, but in the evening I started calling him, the girl picks up the phone and says that she is his new girlfriend, it hurt me a lot, I couldn’t calm down until my parents found out about it, and after half an hour he calls me himself and says that this is true and that they have been dating for 4 days, I don’t know what to do? please help me, because of him I don’t sleep at night, I don’t eat anything, I don’t have any strength at all.
Kamshat
21/01/2013 at 20:57
I love him very much!
The sun is clear
15/02/2013 at 08:13
Evgenia, we have a similar story, we also have different religions, we were together with him for 2.5 years, I love him so much that sometimes it seems that I am ready to wait for him all my life. I was waiting for him from the army, but then we parted, of course I went through it all, it was very painful, then after 2 months he called and said that he was a fool and all that, well, damn, we girls really love with our ears, so I turned out to be like that, he moved me from another city to Yekaterinburg told everyone that the wedding would be , he introduced me to his friends here in Yekaterinburg, and after the new year he had another one, he kicked me out here there are no friends or acquaintances, but as they say “the world is not without good people”, I left him, he knows her for 2 weeks and already she says that he loves her, VKontakte writes on the wall about his love for her, It hurts so much, I didn’t deserve it, why is he doing this to me ... I don’t know what to do, I don’t see the point in life, I don’t want to live, although I know that it’s stupid, everything disappeared somewhere, what they planned, how difficult it is to survive ... Please help.
Lera
02/24/2013 at 03:24
Girls, I fell in love with my classmate. We were together for 2 months, everything was fine, but we often quarreled over various nonsense. He suggested breaking up, because he couldn’t continue like this. Here’s what I should do, I see him at school every day and still sit with him, I can’t communicate with him in any way .. help
Ksyusha
27/02/2013 at 22:08
I am dating a guy, I love him madly and plan further serious relationships with him. But there is one former. I left him. I think about him often. Although I understand that I do not like him, I do not even need him. I remember and cry. He loved me and I left him. I can't help but cry all the time. He is so good, I only wish him well. What can you do to stop thinking about it?
Katyusha
16/04/2013 at 19:45
I met a guy, we talked for a whole month, next to him I was like a protective wing, but we did not meet !! The problem is that his ex-girlfriend hurt him very much, he told me that he was not ready to meet and he didn’t need a girl yet. I was offended at first, but then everything was fine. After that, I asked if he was against seeing me off in the evenings, he told me well, but there was nothing between us. Then I fell in love with him, he recognized. But he didn't say anything. My problem is that I'm VERY obsessive!!! I love him very much, I passed chocolates to him very often at school through his brother!!! I want to be with him, he stopped talking to me and is dating someone else!!! Help, give me some advice!
Lisa
03/05/2013 at 15:29
I got married very early. I was 17 years old. there was love and so on and so forth .. at 19 I gave birth to a son. and very happy about it. After the birth, a year later, my husband went to another country to earn money. and everyone stayed there. You know. I don't even remember exactly how I felt. but I felt like it hurt. But time has passed ... about 5 years after her husband. I was afraid of a serious relationship ... And I tried not to start them ... but no matter how I am as a person ... and naturally, as a normal person, I again wanted a relationship. And I met the very (at that time I thought so) The best. And I fell in love with him like I never loved more than one in my life. Lord, what I didn’t do just for him. At first I tried to show the opposite. Well, sort of like that. like it and yes. he is normal. But over time, he began to understand that I had a crush on him head over heels. And then another story began. He began to mock the homeworker ... even raised his hands at me. He realized that I love him like no one else loved him. And he started bullying me. I just began to turn into a being. But thank God in 2011 .. It so happened that he found himself another victim. Well, of course at that moment .. It was the end of my life for me. You have no idea... what I was just trying to do to myself. At that moment, I didn’t even think about the child. God, what a fool I was. Now I go to church very often and ask for forgiveness for all the actions that even just crossed my mind. I want to tell you how I got away from it. For the first 3 weeks, I didn't sleep or eat. just cried. I only had terrible dreams. It was horror. And then I went to another city for a week. I just borrowed money, took my son and left. to a friend. who did not know him, and there I began to simply forget about him. Of course, after 10 days I returned. everything started to remind me of him again…. BUT NO LONGER )))))) and so time went on ... I met . In social networks with a guy. the romance began. But everything was not right ... I constantly compared him with the former ... Well, of course, when you compare nothing, it doesn’t work. Well, I've decided to leave. I think, Well, why should a person spoil his life. and stress yourself. More time has passed. And then it started. I had so many boyfriends. And everyone looked after me. I was just the beauty of the city))) Well, it's a joke, of course. just a lot of fans. But most importantly, there is no sense in them. I don't remember my ex. But then a guy showed up... Well, it is very similar to my ex .. (outwardly) When the date was the first. as I see it I think. no nafig. Don't want. sat... ate sushi, well, I think everything... came home... my sister still asks. Well, like a date and a boyfriend. I immediately said. what is not. I won't be with him. and dot. Well, of course, if a woman said so ... then it will be the other way around. And then, from his side, such deliveries just went. Well, let's meet again. and so on and so forth. 2 weeks exactly persuaded. well, I agreed. And then it started. again passion, again the same freak. Well now. I passed it well. How did the deceptions start? I sent him all to hell. And he kind of told me. That he likes bitch girls. And if only I could bear it. he wouldn't even touch me anymore. why would he be such a jerk? and the fact that I just do not consider him a person. and when meeting in a general circle, I simply do not even recognize him. THIS is what they like. Naturally. I will never be with this person. So my dear girls. Love only yourself…. And how you love yourself Immediately all these exes Will come running to you. And understand. Everything needs experience. The fact that we are being abandoned ... that's good too. This makes us stronger and more experienced. One must live life and meet suffering with dignity... And of course, joy.... I am every girl, woman. I want to meet the one... And believe me. WE WILL MEET HIM. Women's happiness to you.
Aizhan
05/10/2013 at 09:02
hello. I’m feeling very bad now. can you help? to be friends with him. and she left her boyfriend. I was friends with another for 1 month. I thought that this guy would make me happy, it turned out not. Summer passed, autumn came and I called him. night. hugged, kissed and said sorry, I found myself another one. this is what he did. and it seems to me that I myself am to blame for leaving him without thinking. now he takes offense from me. happiness that I could not give him ......
Lina
31/07/2013 at 06:49
The day before yesterday my friend told me that "he" was dating someone else. (He didn’t even break up with me) I didn’t believe it and wrote to him: If this is true, don’t write to me. If the SMS does not come within 3 days, I will understand. I love him very much. And he said he was bored. My best friend and I called this girl that HE is dating. My girlfriend: Hello! She: Who are you? Girlfriend: Don't you know? She: No. Girlfriend: Yes, it's me! Your old friend! She: What is it? Girlfriend: Do you remember? How so? What about you and Vanka? Her: Why would you? (means there is something) Girlfriend: I'm interested! DISABLED! Then the same number calls back. Girlfriend turns on the speakerphone. Someone on the phone: Who are you? Name name. (I heard his voice!) It hurt me that they were walking together. He turned out to be a goat ... but I believed
Julia
28/08/2013 at 21:50
Hello. Help me please. A year ago, I saw a guy at sea with whom I fell wildly in love. He is 3 years older than me. Then he did not look at me, but I liked at least to feel that he was near. I learned his name and when I returned home from the sea, I immediately found it on the net. I could not start communication with him either in life or online. I just watched his life from the pictures that he posted. A year has passed, I found out that he has a girlfriend, but still he does not leave my thoughts. I feel like a cheat because I still follow him on social networks. For some reason I can't forget him. I have a dream that we will meet someday. because of this, I can not look at other guys who make me signs of attention. What to do? How to get rid of the obsession with this person who does not remember and does not know me?
anet
14/10/2013at 03:19
oh, the girls also had such a story, they were friends at the same desk for 12 years, they ran after me from the 8th grade, but then I had a boyfriend, and we agreed at the graduation. half a year of insane happiness, fell in love with him like crazy, and then he began to walk, so I sent him. a year has passed until it lets go. he has another. but I know happiness awaits us all, the main thing is to believe.
Svetlana
22/10/2013at 07:24
Hi, girls… For the first time I write to the site, for me it’s like a void… It’s just that one question torments me for a week… It’s not even a question… it just torments me… So the topic “Former”… I met a guy for 1.7 years… I remember the day we met - he came to the class where I was already (I say, class, I was 25 years old, this is an evening school) ... I think I even froze at the door for a second ... paid attention ... Then for 3 months we sat on the same course, only looked at each other ... And now, the course is over, and we exchanged e-mail and phone numbers in the group, just in case :) :) :) I exchanged before that, as a rule, no one ever calls anyone ... But, I began to receive letters from him, or rather one, and then mutual correspondence began ... And then it turned out that he told everyone a lot about me, it turns out that all his friends and mother already knew that there was such a girl, and that she was cold and did not pay any attention to him attention .... Okay, this is a prelude, that's probably why I'm writing ... In short, we began to live very quickly, clashed ... A storm of feelings and abuse ... And then again great love and tantrums ... We were together 1.7, he, as I understood it, irritated me everything ... And one day he told me, I want to be alone at the moment ... I packed my bags ... and left ... Then he came to me in a hurry ... And not even sex, just to visit ... And all the time he said that we would be together we can’t, because we are very different ... And then my girlfriends introduced me to a guy ... I didn’t want to, I wasn’t ready, I wanted to hide in my shell and meet with no one else ... And slowly, for 5 months we are building up with this the guy was building relationships, calls, coffee, talking on the phone ... And I was still waiting for my first to make a decision ... And he once told me, I don’t mind if you date another man (i.e. he doesn’t care ...) And it broke me ... I made a decision and I started dating a second guy ... A year passed, he offered me to live with him, and I moved ... Read more ... my ex, began to get in touch, and began to say that he loves ... I’ve been with him for 3 years already ... And he writes to me that he loves me, that he wants me back, and that he believes that everything is possible ... What did he mean that even if I was with someone other than him , but, I am his destiny, I will still be with him, sooner or later (this is when I said go and try, maybe you will meet someone else) ... In short - love ... I understand that I don’t want to go back ... And now a week ago, his sister exposes pictures - my ex with a girl - with a normal girl, not ugly, not fat, but just a normal girl ... Ie. 2 months ago he wrote that he loves me, and then another (I understand that he should not die single, because I do not return to him) I have this question - why am I suffering for a week ??? I know that I don’t want to go back, I can’t believe this man… They don’t leave guys like me today… Why do I have a week of thoughts only about those pictures??? Am I having a headache??? Girls, what fools we are!!!:):):):):) I'm 30, and brains... let's skip this part 🙂
Sashenka
27/11/2013 at 18:31
December 6 is coming soon and I can’t decide what to give my boyfriend. I can’t decide correctly, I just want the gift to be not only useful but also not seem intrusive. What would you advise me???
Kate
12/01/2014 at 18:41
I never wrote on websites, but it boiled over ... I haven’t fallen in love for a long time, somehow it didn’t work out for me. All is not right and wrong. For this they called me the snow queen - they say not a heart, but an ice. And I didn't care what anyone thought. But I still fell in love - and very strongly. The guy is 2 years younger than me, smart and very handsome. Constantly writes to me, but... I don't understand how he really feels. It’s embarrassing to ask… I’ve been feeling just awful lately — I can’t concentrate on work, everything is getting out of hand. I want to forget him, because something tells me that nothing will happen. But I don't know how...
Yana
01/13/2014 at 03:11
Already, as 10 days ago, my boyfriend suggested breaking up, he said that he did not want any relationship, he wanted peace and relaxation (we had a lot of quarrels in the last month, and I am very jealous) and this despite the fact that I waited for him from the army and two months later he tells me this! And the next day he called me and said that he was bored and promised to dial another tomorrow, and so he called me for another two days, and then we met at our birthday a common friend, and there we talked about everything normally and decided that we would be best friends, but as it turns out, he only offered to take a break from each other, who knows, maybe I’ll come back later and decide for you. Then he called me for two more days and now Hasn't called for two days now!
Tell me how to understand him? And will he come back to me? I love him madly and I'm very sorry!
Anna
04/06/2014 at 21:36
5 years ago I broke up with a guy, I can’t say that someone left someone, it just happened, love was crazy, I was 17 years old and, in fact, I was worried wildly, for a long time, but gradually forgot, other guys appeared, it seemed to me forgot. We did not communicate, but after a year we wrote off, started to communicate, he has a girlfriend, I have a boyfriend, and it seems that the feelings turned into friendly ones, I have been married for three years, he was even at my wedding. My family knows him well, such a very good friend. I had a baby and somehow we stopped talking, but a year later we met. By that time, relations with my husband had deteriorated to the point of impossibility. Well, somehow we met at a party and everything flared up again, knowing him, I assumed that he wouldn’t tell me a word about how he feels, for my own good, and within half a year of meetings, he disappeared, I know why and why did he do that. And he did the right thing. Only now I can’t forget him, and then I accidentally met him, hid like a fool so that he wouldn’t see me, for some reason it became scary. And because of these experiences, I can’t improve relations with my husband, I don’t really love him, but I don’t want to break the relationship yet. So long these omissions last that I'm tired. And you can't forget. He's always in front of my eyes
Olesya
06/06/2014 at 08:33
Hello!
Please help me figure it out. I had a friend (I considered him the best), he loved me all 5 years that we talked with him. And I could not imagine us as a couple, but a couple of times we kissed with him. Then I began to leave often, and our communication ceased. I have a boyfriend, he has a girlfriend. We've been dating for about a year now. Yesterday I found out that my “ex-friend” is getting married on June 28 (because his girlfriend got pregnant). Now I can't think of anything but this wedding. It seems to me that I love him, I even stopped thinking about my boyfriend. I see this “friend” almost every day, because. we live not far from each other. Tell me what to do, how to forget about him? Thank you in advance!
Svetlana
18/06/2014at 11:34
I was married, divorced, I have a son. After the divorce, I temporarily left for another city, the child was with my parents. I met a guy, began to live, he knew about the child, said that his son ... Together for 3 years, they brought the child to us ( we wanted to take him to us because we had already more or less settled down) and began to swear even harder. It seems to me that he is too strict with the child, although he denies as a result they had a very strong fight, he doesn’t talk to me, but I can’t find a place for myself, he wants to leave us .. said that our relationship ended a few months ago, we are in lately they have been cursing a lot and mostly I’m wrong, he can’t understand that I miss my son, I worry about him, I really want them to have a good relationship, he calls him dad, and all my feelings turn into litter. I don’t know what to do, I love him very much, and my son needs a dad (he doesn’t support relations with his family) ... Tell me what to do or I’ll lose him completely ... if I haven’t lost him already ...
Ksyusha
16/07/2014 at 18:38
I studied at the 2nd course, met a guy, he fell in love with me and I also met him ... I met for 3 months, then the relationship became boring and I had to leave. after a breakup, I forgot him, and then when I met someone else and started living, I got pregnant from him and got married ... now I can’t forget my ex-boyfriend ... he wants me and I him ... but something has not been happening with my husband lately, he stopped liking my parents almost around the house doesn’t help. my parents yell at me all the time ... I don’t know what to do now ... my ex has a girlfriend, she is very jealous ... my parents are already against the fact that I communicate with the ex .. I don’t know, but for some reason I am drawn to him … help I don’t know what to do now…
Bella
04/09/2014 at 22:59
More than a year ago I met a guy on a dating site, he is 2 years younger than me. We met, he liked me, but I didn't take him seriously. But he still treated me in a special way, he was in a hurry to come to me faster and see me. We had a close relationship, but I still didn’t take him seriously, maybe because he was younger than me, in general, I can’t explain the reason. And then he disappeared, stopped writing to call and did not answer my messages, and if he answered, it was very dry. And then I realized that I had disappeared, fell in love without a memory, but we understand that we have lost only when we lose. All my thoughts were about him. I couldn't figure out why it all happened? But he never showed up. A lot of time has passed since the day we met, men met on my way, but I didn’t succeed with them. Then I sort of forgot about him, thoughts periodically visited, but I even breathed towards him. I knew that he had no one, so only girls for meetings, but nothing serious. In general, a lot of time has passed, I haven’t seen him for a year, only a photo in the social. networks, by the way, we are friends with each other and he periodically likes my photos. In general, I don’t know what is happening to me, but sometimes memories come flooding back to me, but in everyday life I don’t even remember about it! Why do I remember him, because we have not seen each other for more than a year, maybe he does not let me go mentally? Tell me why is this so?
Julia
26/09/2014 at 17:04
Girls help urgently ... I left my boyfriend, I live with a friend ... My friend has a husband and my boyfriend began to communicate closely with him again ... He is constantly there ... How can I forget him? apartment ... I want to forget him because I understand that we have no future with him .. He told me that he doesn’t know if he loves me .. At the same time, he corresponded with the former ... Actually, that’s why I left .... How to forget him and not perceive seriously…
gel
10/10/2014 at 13:48
Today I broke up with my “beloved”, whom I have known for about 1.5 years.
We broke up for the first time after 4.5 months of relationship. Then they did not communicate for 9 months due to frequent quarrels and personal problems. Then they decided to be together again, but it was only a short-term moment - we talked for two months and decided to be together again, but not for a long time, only for a month and 5 days, because quarrels and misunderstandings began again. After parting, I feel finally free and felt completely relieved that it was all over, that I was just a “slave” in this relationship.
I constantly watched him, went nervous, tried to please, but there was no attention to me, although I confidently knew that the man loves me! I'm just tired of it. Of course, there were and will be tears, and plus the lack of a native particle, but for us it’s better this way.
We decided to remain friends. Remember girls, if you have a similar situation as mine, then you don’t have to be a “slave”, just let go of the situation and go about your business and leave those guys who love you, but don’t pay attention to you due to lack of time. Even if it hurts to forget and you are good with him, but you should not suffer because of this !!!!!
ira
21/10/2014at 09:54
I fell in love with one boy very much, but he doesn’t notice it, we’re just friends and it hurts me a lot to realize that we won’t have anything. Therefore, I want to forget him as a person whom I love, but not to stop being friends with him, and the worst thing is that we see each other every day because he is at my school and we live in neighboring entrances !!! Help me please!!! 🙁
Marina
10/12/2015at 10:22
We met for a year ...
At first I thought that I was in a fairy tale
After a week of relationship, he thanked fate for sending me to him
Baby, my girl, I want to be with you until old age ...
Lived with a child in another city
Moved to his city, sowed apartment
I got pregnant
Frequent quarrels began, he began to drink often, left home
And since he practically didn’t live with me, he didn’t pay a penny for the apartment
Lies just drove him crazy
It came to me that it was disgusting to sleep with him, because lied, and I suspected that he was cheating I
had an abortion
Then my parents arrived and I moved with them to another city
We did not communicate for several months and always returned
Either on my, then on his initiative
And then a month ago after another breakup, he appears He
says that he is tired of running and wants a family and let's get married
I have already begun serious work on myself to forget all the insults and look at him with different eyes
We met I saw that of course there was not much fire in his eyes
Nevertheless, we spent a wonderful night together
But ...
A day after that, he wrote that he thought about everything at night and realized that we were not suitable for each other and we needed to leave
I freaked out and sent him
But then it hurt me and I arranged a meeting with him
We were both drunk, so we quickly found out something and then a call
I asked to show me the phone because he didn’t answer
He showed me and I remembered the number and she dialed
It turned out to be a girl
He grabbed my phone and so I wrote to her that we would talk to her tomorrow
Then I left
And the next day I talked to her
It turned out that they had been dating for a week and he was grateful to fate that she gave it to him))
Of course I made a mistake that I talked to her at all
In general
I’m broken in the trash
And in such a way that I can’t work or do anything
can’t do anything
The child needs to be dealt with
And I just want to die I
don’t even know how to pull myself out
It was already earlier in my life of course
But such stress
It is SUCH pain girls
I haven't eaten anything for over 2 weeks
Tried dating other people
It's only getting worse
I don't even know how to get out, really
Maksim
05/01/2016 at 22:59
Girls, you yourself are no better than guys !!! I have been living with a woman for 4 years and she is deceiving looking into her eyes, although she has lived soul to soul for 3 years, but now she has found another in the game, I love her and she apparently doesn’t, until I no, he sends his photos with someone and I think that the photo is of an erotic nature !!! in the game I read one word::: FAVORITE, BUT I DO NOT PLAY IT, AND THEN IT IS NOT ADDRESSED TO ME, JUST CALLS ME CATS AND THERE IS NO CLOSE, LIES OUT NEARBY, AND THERE IS NO PROXIMITY ... I HAVE ALL MY SOUL TO HER. WE DID NOT quarrel BEFORE AND HOW I STARTED IN RELATED FROM SEPTEMBER quarrels. .ALL FACTS ON THE
FACE
IT IS DIFFICULT FOR ME TO ACCEPT EVEN THINKING ABOUT HER CHEATING ON ME
Olesya
23/01/2016 at 00:44
I'm completely sad.
We broke up 12 years ago.
Both are to blame for the breakup. I started dating a guy a month later and married him two years later. And, I can’t forget the former, it seems to me that I am in the wrong place and with the wrong man. I don’t see my ex, I don’t know anything about him, but I constantly think about him.
what to do?
Sasha
16/03/2016 at 22:52
I don't know how to explain it... In general, I was in a relationship with a guy just a month ago. Everything seems to be fine, but something has changed a lot between us ... His attitude towards me has become cold ... He humiliates me, laughs at me with friends ... Something went wrong. The blow just confused me ... I was an excellent student, but I began to study for 3 and 2, I didn’t see anything around, I didn’t sleep at night, I often cried, I lost a lot of weight, I just didn’t have a smile even once in a month. We are not together anymore. He doesn't care about me and I don't. I love him so much that it is impossible to put into words. I try so hard to forget him, I understand that nothing will work out for us now ... I hit the sport and deleted all information about him. But alas. I can’t forget him… The fact is that he lives on the 2nd entrance after me, and every time he comes out, tears well up in my eyes, I remember how I had butterflies in my stomach from his hugs, our kisses and first sex… How should I forget him? Wink guys... ={