Question for a psychologist:
Hello! Help solve this problem: how to tell my parents that I want to live alone separately from them. This question has been raised more than once, but there has always been a refusal on their part. They say that I am still too young to live on my own (I am 16 years old).
Psychologist's answer:
Hello. To be honest, I am surprised, but at the same time proud that in our time, men already at such a young age have a desire for an independent life, with full responsibility for it.
You, as an adult enough, of course, understand that for parents, we, their children, always get stuck somewhere at the age of 10-15 years. And not every parent is psychologically ready for the fact that children grow up and sooner or later the time comes when the chicks fly away from their nest.
Your desire for an independent life is wonderful. But we must be clear about this. And think about every step you take as if there is no way back. Because I am sure that you, like the vast majority of men, will find it hard to return to your parental home with your head down and thoughts that nothing came of this venture. And this is after your freedom is hard given to you.
The main question is, can you financially provide for yourself? Or do you strive for independence, but at the expense of a parent? If you have just the second case, then the resistance of your parents is quite understandable. Then what is independence for you? That you live alone in your apartment and arrange a Party whenever you like, with a sea of liquor and girls?
But a completely different question, if today you are already able to earn enough to not only survive, but even afford some excesses and not ask your parents for a single ruble - then this is commendable. And I am sure that if you all calmly convey to them the reason for such a decision with feeling, sense, arrangement, then they will certainly reconcile. After all, they were not born yesterday. Just don't go on screaming, beating your chest and foaming at the mouth to prove to them what an adult you are! It will not lead to anything good, trust me.
For most parents, the departure of their children from home to meet adulthood is accompanied by a lot of experiences and worries. Especially when it happens for the first time (mostly when the older kids leave). And you are really young (but this does not detract from your solvency at all), and you yourself understand that it is doubly difficult for parents to agree. But, in the end, if you are determined, then it will be cheaper for your parents to reconcile and accept your challenge than to get used to this after the fact when you secretly hide ...
So, if you are really confident in your abilities, do not be afraid to tell them directly about your decision. And, albeit not immediately, but parents will definitely come to terms with this state of affairs. Most importantly, don't forget to call them often!
Good luck!
