To make your own wedding a holiday where everyone feels comfortable, not showing their impoliteness and impoliteness, it is necessary to observe wedding etiquette. It is understood as a set of rules that regulate both the behavior of the young at the wedding itself, and the entire period, from engagement to honeymoon. At the same time, knowledge and observance of it is necessary for both the newlyweds and their family members and guests.
Wedding etiquette was formed in Europe by the beginning of the 19th century. In accordance with it, a wedding ceremony was held, guests were located, etc., and the specific duties of each participant in the ceremony were also distributed.
And even now, in our progressive age, even if you do not believe in many superstitions and do not want to follow traditions, the rules of wedding etiquette will come in handy for solving many delicate issues.
Question about places for the groom, bride and guests.
The newlyweds are always at the head of the table. To the right of the bride is her mother and the father of the groom, and to the left of the groom are his mother and father of the bride. In the absence of any parent of the newlyweds, the groom's parents sit to the right of the bride, and the bride's parents to the left of the groom, without separating.
Witnesses, relatives of the newlyweds, and then friends and colleagues sit down after the parents. In this case, men alternate with women. And guests of honor (for example, high-ranking officials or bosses) are seated near the witnesses.
The question of whether the guests of the bride and groom should be located on opposite sides of the table is decided in different ways. It is easier for young guests to get to know each other, so there will be nothing to worry about if you mix them up. As for the elderly, it is more difficult for them to find a common language with each other, so it is better to place them in a circle of acquaintances. But at the same time, tell the toastmaster about the current situation so that he does not allow the holiday to turn into a meeting of colleagues or whispering of the next of kin.
Question about the prevention of scandals.
Contrary to popular belief, a wedding can be held without fights and scandals, placing guests in such a way that all provocations are reduced to zero.
When placing guests, their temperament must be taken into account. So, sociable, cheerful and noisy people sit away from each other, thereby entertaining the rest of the guests and not competing with each other for the right to be in the spotlight.
In the presence of divorced spouses at the wedding, the relationship between which is strained, they are also seated further away from each other, or at least separated by at least a bouquet of flowers.
The loneliness of guests who come without a couple is brightened up by seating them so that the man sits to the left of the woman and can look after her. Sometimes such casual acquaintances "result" into something more.
Question about seating chart
Usually, a certain responsible person should deal with the accommodation of guests according to a certain scheme. Many wedding salons provide a similar service today, so it is better to turn to a professional and dedicate him to all the nuances.
But you can also help. You can put on the table cards on which the names of the guests are written, so as not to mislead them.
Question about the shape of the table.
Tables can be arranged in a simple rectangle (with a small number of guests), or resemble the letters "T", "P" and "Sh". The main thing at the same time is not to forget about the place for the newlyweds, who should be in full view, as well as for dancing.
You can give preference to the Italian version, seating the bride and groom on the podium in the center, and the invited ones at tables set in a semicircle. Or use the English version, seating guests at round tables of eight people, setting aside a separate table for the newlyweds and witnesses, and a separate table for parents and grandparents.
In addition, it is important to remember that the wedding itself is a very hectic day for the young, and they need to rest. Therefore, it is important for guests to remember the most important rule of wedding etiquette - timely care.
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